This week, Emily answers a question from her producer, Mo, about consent. Mo and her girlfriend are considering a new sexual experience but they’re not both an “enthusiastic yes” on the idea. Mo’s girlfriend joins the conversation, and they delve into the idea of “enthusiastic maybe” in consent and how to handle all the comfortable, joyful, and consensual “maybes” that can come up in sex. A heads up before listening: in this conversation, we touch on difficult topics such as coercion and manipulation in sex. If this episode brings up some feelings for you, check out our resources below.
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ADDITIONAL RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
“ACE: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire Society” by Angela Chen
Emily learned the language of “willing consent” from Suzanne Iasenza
For more on “human givers” and “human winners” read “Burnout”
Emily’s Tiktok
Emily’s definition of consent: “Everyone is glad to be there and free to leave with no unwanted consequences. Plus, there is no unwanted pain.”
CONSENT AND SURVIVOR RESOURCES:
RAINN on consent and information for sexual assault survivors
National Sexual Violence Resource Center
Me Too Movement Resource Library
See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
