The idea of conflict intimacy is that you have open and non hostile conversations with each other, neither attacking nor defending. It's a huge ask for couples impacted by ADHD I view this as a fairly senior if you want to call it advanced thing that couples can do but the good news is that it is something that you can practice and get better at. And once you have conflict intimacy then that leads very naturally and fairly quickly to affection intimacy which is how we think of romance. There is a building process of these intimacies that helps improve communication between couples.