We have so much energy spent suppressing our negative emotions and distracting ourself, that we don't have any bandwith left over for other things. The more full this is with negative emotion, the more we have to go into distraction. All it takes is a single conversation, let's say, with a woman, till like, create an eruption of negativity. And then that becomes a self fulfilling cycle too. It doesn't take much for all that emotion to get, like, overwhelm you.