Sensitive Questions - Is It a Good Thing?

My husband is an atheist, and i've always wanted to ask his parents if they it would have been better to aboarded him thereby sending him to heaven. My job hangs in the balance, but i have no idea how to ask ye - that's my sensitive question. Wouldn't it be nice to know more about sensitive questions? And what are we missing out on by swallowing so many of our sensitive questions? The good news is that academia has people who have been studying these very questions....