The Importance of Finding Your Identity

I think with a lot of hope true freedom does indeed come from an identity outside of yourself the fact that you're lovingly created by God in his image male and female he created them in his image. The endless pursuit of finding yourself is a false paradigm we just need to let people know that they need to be found by God I want to jump into some questions about why are there no female elderswhy so is that just an area where we're like "we don't question why God let suffering continue lots"