People will also be judging your path the trajectory of where you've been and where they think you're going now. We need to find a mechanism for ourselves to let it make us better and not bitter yeah well so there's one last piece of this about trajectory when you said it's not just who you are as an individual that people will be judging like how far have you traveled? I went from being at Berkeley as an undergrad to Pepperdine as an MBA student and I saw one of the first things I noticed was the filtering process in terms of who came to hire there. When you graduated from Pepperdine in April 2009 something like 80 percent of my class was unemployed, says