Why transitions feel harder than change

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If you’re feeling behind, heartbroken, stuck, or in a weird in-between, this episode is your roadmap. We break down what it actually means to start over — not as a single decision, but as a group of frameworks that touches your emotions, habits, identity, health, career, and relationships.

We walk you through 6 proven frameworks we personally use when we’re rebuilding our lives — whether that’s after a breakup, a layoff, a career pivot, or an identity shift. You don’t need January 1st to reset. You need clarity and a system.

In this episode, we cover:

✅ Why starting over is emotional and practical

✅ The “transition phase” no one talks about (and why you’re not behind)

✅ How William Bridges’ transition framework explains why change feels so hard

✅ Carol Dweck’s mindset work and how it applies to reinvention✅ Designing Your Life: how to prototype your next chapter without blowing up your life

✅ Atomic Habits as the foundation for sustainable change

✅ Why vulnerability (Brené Brown) accelerates growth, not weakness

✅ How to rewrite your personal narrative using Esther Perel’s framework

✅ Practical exercises you can do while listeningThis episode is split into two parts:Part 1 is the emotional map of starting over.

Part 2 is the toolkit you can apply immediately.Whether you’re starting over in your career, in love, after a breakup, after a layoff, or you simply want to reinvent yourself — this is the reset playbook we wish we had sooner.

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⏰ Timestamps

1:18 You’re not behind — you’re in a transition phase

3:12 Why “starting over” feels harder than it should

5:46 The emotional reality no one talks about when you reset your life

8:41 Why January 1st is overrated (and what actually creates change)

11:07 The six-framework reset system we personally use

14:02 William Bridges’ transition model (explained simply)

18:36 Why identity loss is the hardest part of change

21:58 Carol Dweck and the mindset shift required to move forward

26:14 Designing Your Life: prototyping your next chapter

32:09 Atomic Habits as the foundation for real change

37:44 Why vulnerability accelerates growth (not weakness)

42:18 Rewriting your personal narrative

47:01 How to apply these frameworks immediately

50:09 Final reflections: choosing who you become next

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