William's Dealing With One Degree of Separation of Value

We don't want to feel incompetent in anything that we personally value. There's a bunch of stuff that i don't care if i'm incompetent in, bu ok, fair enough. We're not going to clock the time developing those skills or ontuning our attention to them. Having trama means you have to use it as a tool to get into some of those things but it's really not best tool for healing. You know, i don't know if you already are seeking counselling or just doing your own work through therapy and  I would highly recommend that as you let some of the pressure around those tramas go.