Is There a Hidden Agenda in Relationships?

A lot of us as humans, we have been socialized to believe that direct is wrong. And this is the hidden agenda part of it was really eye opening to me too. We're doing these things in the hope of getting something in return instead of simply being direct about what it is that we want and need in the relationship. A lot of people pleasing is dropping hints because we're effectively trying to show other people how to behave. There we are busting ourselves up, taking on all of this stuff, the giving, giving, giving. Sometimes smiling like, oh, all sweet and sweet. Inside. Like we're going to have to catch a case and murder somebody soon.