How Do You Say Kindness?

i was noticing preceding it that like, i at least left a lot of circles like being really frustrated and like feeling disconnected from other people. I don't want to be getting hurt or hurtit like hurting someone else. And so it sort of created a more intimate kind container of connection with others. It was just like creating a safe container. O, how would you kine to find the balance there of kindness? How do you say kind and honest about that?