2650: When Friends' "Help" Hurts by Dr. Gwendolyn Seidman
Optimal Living Daily - Personal Development and Self-Improvement
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Help With a Self-Related Task Can Make You Feel Bad About Yourself
Receiving help with a self-relevant task can make you feel badly about yourself, and this can undermine the potential positive effects of the help. For example, if your self-concept rests in part on your great cooking ability, it may be a blow to your ego when a friend helps you prepare a meal for guests because it suggests that you are not the master chef you thought you were. This research shows that sometimes well-intentioned efforts to help can backfire. When you help others with the things that are most important to them, your efforts could do more harm than good.
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