Ep. 170: Q&A: How do I Establish Boundaries and Gain Respect in My Relationship?
Cheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and Dené
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The Difference Between Need and Desire
I think people really do struggle with that. I mean, shit, we're also codependent, right? That this is these conversations we have around like needs versus wants. If someone just uses that as evidence of why you are attacking them, if they are just in the space of defending themselves and that is like, I'm in vulnerability. The narcissistic injury is everything that is said to me that goes on, I experience as me not being enough. But that's about my own relationship with me not beingenough versus what the other person is actually saying to me. Yeah. So I would say that is the desire that she has. She's asking for consent from him to meet that need
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