Psychopaths don't feel a sense of responsibility or guilt for the emotional impact their actions have. People pleasing tendencies can cause us to act in a manner that we think is helpful, but actually it's equally as hurtful. We avoid having to explicitly let someone down by simply leaving them to figure it out by themselves by ghosting them. It may seem nice and it probably saves you the emotional discomfort of hurting someone, but really you're doing more damage than if you just fought against your people pleasing instinct and told them the truth.
Today we're discussing the increasing prevalence of ghosting in modern dating. The use of dating apps has created a sense of choice overload, whilst social media has simultaneously allowed us a sense of online anonymity and diminished our ability to communicate, resulting in a rise in ghosting. Being ghosted can leave us craving emotional closure and feeling a sense of rejection. However, there are a number of psychological motivations behind why people ghost us, including emotional unavailability, emotional intelligence, the Dark Triad of narcissism, psychopathy and machiavellianism, but also people pleasing tendencies and convenience. We explore all of these reasons and more, as well as the best response to being ghosted and how we can provide ourselves with the psychological closure and answers we need. Listen now.
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