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#90 - Living With Violence

Making Sense with Sam Harris - Subscriber Content

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Charm and Niceness Are Not Inherent Features of a Persona

Charm is a directed instrument. It's like raport building. To charm somebody is to compel or to control them by some kind of allure or attraction. We have to learn and teach our children as well, that niceness, which is a choice, does not equal goodness. And people seek to control others, always by being nice at the beginning. The husband who ultimately beats up his wife and kills his wife, do you think he was not nice on their first date?

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