How to Love Yourself in an Ordered Way

There's very little Catholic commentary that specifically addresses what it means for us to love ourselves in an ordered way. How can you have a relationship with yourself if you understand yourself as a single homogenous monolithic personality? It's impossible, there's no potential for internal relatedness within yourself if you just have a single homogeneous personality. So I've got real concerns about this way of understanding oneself because of the importance of us needing to love ourselves.