Understanding Fear in D/s Relationships

This chapter explores the emotional complexities related to punishment within Dominant/submissive dynamics, highlighting the root causes of fear and the significance of boundaries. It discusses the distinction between punitive actions and playful spankings, emphasizing the need for trust and mutual understanding in fostering authentic relationships.

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Episode 68: D/s without punishments, overcoming “nice guy” syndrome, and more!

Welcome to the latest episode of the Dom Sub Devotion podcast! In this episode, we have an engaging discussion surrounding the use of punishments within a 24/7 DS (Dominant/Submissive) marriage. We address questions from our Instagram followers about our personal choice to exclude punishment from our dynamic and share insights about why it doesn't work for us.

We also delve into the challenges of maintaining authentic communication, and how to navigate changes in your dynamic. Additionally, we reflect on the inaccuracies of DS depictions in movies and books, explore how to have healthy communication check-ins with your partner, and reflect on the challenges for good men stepping into Dominant roles.

Tune in to gain thoughtful perspectives and practical advice for fostering a deeply loving and intimate DS relationship.

Enjoy!

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01:14 Discussing Punishments in DS Dynamics

02:35 Personal Boundaries and Experiences

04:50 The Impact of Punishment on Self-Worth

06:52 Fun and Play in DS Relationships

08:55 Correction vs. Punishment

19:28 Questioning the Role of Punishment

24:21 Advice for Couples on Punishment

27:26 The Power of Questioning

28:11 Respect in Communication

30:21 Emotional Expression in Relationships

32:35 The Importance of Open Communication

39:20 Navigating Changing Desires