Ep. 384 - How to Feel Safe, Trust, and Have Healthy Boundaries: Inner Child Healing Part 1
EXPANDED Podcast by To Be Magnetic™
Boundaries, perfectionism, and authenticity
Lacy and Janelle discuss how boundary injuries create perfectionism, people-pleasing, or rebellion patterns.
What if the way your needs were met in infancy still shapes your ability to feel safe, seen, and supported today?
Welcome to the end-of-year challenge: The Return to Magic. Today, Lacy, Jessica, and EMDR-certified LMFT Janelle dive deep into the foundation of all manifestation work: your earliest subconscious blueprint set in childhood. This episode explores the powerful programming from ages zero to 18 months. It’s a period most people don’t remember, but it’s when your soul touched down into your human body—and profoundly shapes who you are today.
This early stage is where safety, secure relationships, and boundaries are formed, and Janelle helps us understand how the presence (or absence) of these things can leave us feeling out of balance.
This conversation is a reminder that our TBM practice is here to bring us back to our most whole selves. We are not destined to stay stuck in old patterns or loops that don’t serve us. We can start from the very beginning and manifest the lives we’re meant to embody.
This is the work that changes everything. It’s time to return to your magic.
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In this episode we talk about:
- The real reason your manifestations feel stuck — and how early unmet needs are the cause
- Why the most formative manifestation blueprint is set between 0–18 months
- The power of skin-to-skin contact and early co-regulation with caregivers
- Healing the nervous system through somatic reparenting and new DI’s
- How trauma from inconsistency or neglect creates current-day self-worth blocks
- Creating secure attachment with the universe — the TBM method's deeper layer
- Reclaiming trust, touch, routine, and reliability through new subconscious experiences
- Overwriting your origin story through the reparenting process
- Why boundaries, autonomy, and safe exploration matter so deeply
- Releasing perfectionism, people-pleasing, and rebellion patterns from toddler years
- Rediscovering intuition, creativity, and authenticity buried beneath early shame
- How to self-soothe as an adult by attuning to your inner child’s unmet needs
- Recognizing that your inner child is your spiritual guide back to wholeness
Mentioned In the Episode:
- Expanded x Ep. 383 - The Return to Magic: How to Cut Through the Noise and Get Your Spark Back
- Expanded x Ep. 186 - The Difference Between Fear & Intuition with Taylor Paige - Angel Reader & Intuitive
- 242 Manifestation Blocks, Navigating The Unknown, And Creating Our Most Magical Lives with Jessica Gill of TBM
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HOW TO MANIFEST by Lacy Phillips
(with exercises by Jessica Gill)
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The Expanded Podcast, from To Be Magnetic™ (TBM), is the leading manifestation podcast rooted in neuroscience, psychology, and energetics. Hosted by TBM’s Chief Content Officer Jessica Gill, with monthly appearances from founder Lacy Phillips, Expanded is where science and the mystical meet to help you manifest in the most grounded, practical, and life-changing way.
At TBM, we’ve redefined manifestation through Neural Manifestation™—our proven, science-backed method developed with neuroscientist Dr. Tara Swart. This process helps you reprogram limiting beliefs at the subconscious level so you can create the life most aligned with your authenticity.
Each week, we take you inside the TBM practice to help you expand your subconscious to believe what you desire is possible. Through expert interviews, thought leader conversations, TBM teachings, and real member success stories, you’ll learn how to:
– Rewire your subconscious mind and step into your worth
– Heal your inner child and integrate shadow work
– Set boundaries, strengthen intuition, and reclaim self-worth
– Manifest relationships, careers, abundance, and experiences that align with your true self
With over than 40 million downloads and a global community in over 100 countries, Expanded has become the gold standard in manifestation content. Think of it as your weekly practice for expanding your mind, believing what you want is possible, and manifesting the life you’re meant to live.
Past guests include leading voices such as Mel Robbins, Lewis Howes, Jenna Zoe, Martha Beck, Dr. Joe Dispenza, Dr. Gabor Maté, Mark Groves, and Brianna Wiest.
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