Understanding Self-Sabotage

If you want to lose weight, get in shape, or keep a relationship, you may know the desire to stop the self sabotage all too well. 

My guest and I talk about her weight loss, coming down from 200 lbs. Not achieving a skinny size 4, but an all important and often missing love for the body and the curves she has. 

If you don’t need to lose weight but aren’t where you want to be in relationships, business or finance, stay tuned to know how to stop the self sabotage.

My Guest:

Junie Moon, CEO of Midlife Love Out Loud, a Global Love Mentor, Best-selling Author, Women's Empowerment Leader, and Certified Shadow Work® Coach, has supported thousands of women over the past 30 years to claim their birthright: the freedom to be and love themselves without apology.

Junie is dedicated to guiding women in midlife on a transformative journey towards self-discovery and empowerment. Through heart-centered coaching, she helps her clients cultivate a deep sense of self-love and confidence.

Questions We Answer in This Episode:

• [00:03:39] [00:07:05] Tell us your story… Is it true you were 200 pounds and cracked the code for successful weight loss and vibrant living?
• [00:14:16] Many women sabotage themselves. Why?
• [00:27:46] How can we break these painful patterns?
• [00:08:34] You speak of the shadow and healing the shadow, what and why is it important to do shadow work?

The Real Root of Weight Struggles

• The cycle of dieting, deprivation, and rebound.
• Emotional eating in a dysfunctional marriage. You eat food to self-soothe. Shift from "food problem" to self-worth problem.

What is Shadow Work?

• Personal growth model with special processes that shines a light on the 95% of the unconscious mind that's running in the background.
• Learn your worthiness, lovability, voice, value, and what matters.

How to Really Stop the Self Sabotage and How to Shed It?

What is Self-Sabotage?

• It's the monster under the bed. It’s something we've picked up along the way that’s something's wrong with us.
• It’s self-protection. Fear of change and the illusion of safety in discomfort.
• Subconscious patterns and limiting beliefs from childhood.

Mind-Body Connection & Illness

• Healing the mind leads to healing the body.
• The power of releasing suppressed emotions.
• Small, safe steps — not dramatic overhauls — lead to lasting change.

Key Takeaways

• Weight struggles are often rooted in emotional and psychological wounds, not just food habits.
• Shadow work helps uncover hidden parts of ourselves shaped by shame and unworthiness.
• Self-sabotage often stems from fear and a subconscious desire for safety.
• Our "risk manager" brain will create illness, injury, or limiting beliefs to avoid perceived danger.
• Healing starts with awareness and self-compassion, not self-blame.
• True transformation is possible at any age and can lead to finding love, purpose, and peace.

Connect with Junie:

• Junie Moon’s Midlife Love Out Loud
• Facebook - Midlife Love Out Loud
• Facebook Group - Find Fabulous Love After 40
• Instagram - @MidlifeLoveOutLoud
• YouTube - @MidlifeLoveOutLoud
• Podcast - Midlife Love Out Loud

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Resources:

• Don’t know where to start? Book your Discovery Call with Debra. 
• Join the Flipping50 Insiders Facebook Group and connect with Debra and the community.
• Understand how sleep relates to your hormones, muscle mass and weight loss with Flipping 50 Sleep Yourself Skinny.