I'm a Terrible, Controlling Person. What's Beneath It?

i would like to express my pain in a way that doesn't feel oppressive to others. Youso, you really would like to be understood and you're feeling kind of hopeless about whether you can get that need met. Jack, while i have these graff ears on, you're always running life out of your agenda. You never do that. It's really hard to trust. Now maybe i can hear her feelings. All i can hear. I'm a terrible, controlling person. What's beneath it? What is my need beneath that? Judging myself that way?