Presence over perfection in parenting

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In this raw episode of Lights On, Carl Lentz sits down with his 21-year-old daughter Ava for the conversation most dads are too afraid to have. What does my daughter actually need from me? The answer will challenge everything you think you know about strength, protection, and what it actually takes to lead your daughter well.

Drawing from their own journey of rebuilding after public failure, Carl and Ava expose an uncomfortable truth. Your daughter's inner world is far deeper than you realize. And two things can be true at once. A dad can be trying his best AND his daughter can be starving for real connection.

Ava shares what she needed most as a little girl but never said, including the moments Carl's "strength" actually created fear instead of safety. Carl delivers the perspective most dads never hear. What it is actually like to let your daughter see you broken, and why that vulnerability became the foundation of their relationship today.

From the power of the words that follow "you are" to why your best parenting will feel like friction in the moment, to the question every dad should ask his daughter, this episode delivers practical truths for fathers who want to stop performing and start connecting.

This episode will challenge any dad who believes he needs to have it all figured out.

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CHAPTERS 

00:00 The Conversation Most Dads Avoid

02:40 This Is Not Pressure It Is Presence 

05:18 What Ava Needed Most As A Little Girl 

10:07 Why Vulnerability Made Them Closer 

14:37 God Behind Bars Partnership 

16:02 The Worst Advice Dads Receive 

19:26 Your Words Become Her Inner Voice 

22:00 The Dad Mistake That Creates Fear Not Safety 

25:00 When Trust Is Crushed Daughters Need Honesty 

29:50 Confrontation Is Not The Enemy Of Connection 

31:01 Truth 1 Her Inner World Is Deeper Than You Know 

34:24 Plana Partnership 

36:22 Truth 2 Your Best Parenting Feels Like Friction 

38:59 Truth 3 Humanity Strengthens Leadership 

43:26 Truth 4 The Power Of You Are 

45:07 Truth 5 Legacy Should Always Be Growing 

46:59 What Daughters Wish Their Dads Would Ask 

49:49 Final Words For Dads Ready To Lead Differently 

54:06 Whatever You Avoid Controls You

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