This is a Fan Fav episode. What stops us from finding real love? Is it bad luck, a broken picker… or the fantasy that “chemistry” is the only thing that matters? In this conversation, I sit down with love and relationship expert Spirit to crack open the truths most of us never hear about compatibility, new relationship energy, forgiveness, and how to build a lasting partnership—even when the butterflies fade.
Spirit and I go deep on the difference between chemistry and compatibility (and why confusing the two is a recipe for disaster), how resentment builds if we avoid hard conversations, and what real forgiveness actually looks like. Plus, we get tactical: how to work through grudges, make better “agreements” as a couple, and reignite connection after years together. This episode is packed with real talk, practical tools, and myth-busting must-knows for anyone who wants extraordinary love—not just the fairy tale.
SHOWNOTES
-
00:00 – Spirit on compromise: “If I win and you lose, our relationship loses”
-
00:16 – Chemistry vs. compatibility: Why sparks don’t equal sustainability
-
03:03 – The science of new relationship energy—and how it tricks us
-
05:39 – Questions to ask while dating: Interviewing for your “life mate”
-
10:07 – Why sex clouds judgment and prolongs “love drunk” states
-
14:59 – Spirit’s take on forgiveness: Why you can heal without granting instant access
-
22:22 – Making agreements as a team—and what happens when you clash
-
27:45 – The power of compromise: Creating solutions where both partners win
-
33:14 – Who’s responsible for moving past resentment? Why it’s always teamwork
-
51:47 – 3 immediate steps to start unwinding resentment and reigniting connection
FOLLOW SPIRIT:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/talk2spirit/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/talk2spirit
Website: https://talk2spirit.com/
Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
