The realization, i am not this person. I am the witness of this first person. This is called atma yagi. And when he does this, what happens? You see, the our likes and dislikes, or fears, psychologically, this is what roots us in samsar. It is in awareness only that i become aware of something that a dislike, or someone a dislike. Fear is fundamental to the human psychic fear of many, many things.