How to Reach for Your Partner to Regulate With You

This is so complicated for me as I listen to you. Just there's the part that we're saying we want to reach for our partner to regulate with us. But this other thing that you're saying is, I also do need to comfort, regulate, inside, become okay. One is the co-regulation and one is intro- Intro psychic. Yeah. The more of both the better we get, the more our partner can learn to comfort us in these places except in love us,. That's the antidote to so much of this shame. We have our own work to do.