Do You Have to Read Your Notes?

In school, students take notes verbatim and translate them into their own words for the test. How does that carry over to adults who might be working in an organization? When you're dealing with people, how do you know, like, what results am i getting? You could be getting totally the wrong feedback. Here's a good question: In everyday life, how do we get feedback by asking friends or family members if they think I'm doing it right? And then using that feedback to revise my work.