You Disrespect Me, I Don't Talk to You.

Paula's message to her mother: 'What will i accept and what won't i accept in my life?' She says she is always accommodating, always people pleasing, trying to rescue. This is a very coe pendent personality trait which can lead to toxic behaviour. Paul tells her that the only day that matters is this one - so how are you being treated to day? What am i going to do about it when I get disrespected? And where does your history with your mam come from? You don't see it as not being good enough or not trying hard enough. You see it as what you need to do for you so that you are no longer exposed to toxic