What Is My Job?

Tolerance is such a big issue with tolerance and, you know, so many, I mean, we struggled to address them. So how does that relate to tantrums? Well, the things that's the most powerful question to ask yourself with any tricky situation are: What is my job here? And until you know what your job is, you can't determine how well you're doing your job or what you want to do to even improve your job performance. Most parents, unconsciously, somewhere, think that their job during a tantrum is to get their child to calm down. But there's a mismatch for our kids of how they learn to manage feelings.