How to Break the Reactive Cycle of Conflict

Jessica: I feel like that's exactly what my husband and I have been battling. We know we're not finding each other, but in the heat of the moment, we can't seem to stop. How do we break that cycle so that the other person doesn't feel like shut down? Erin: Let's even step back a few steps and talk about what's actually going on. What's driving conflict? It's really something that we call the reactive cycle.