Welcome to the Social-Engineer Podcast: The Doctor Is In Series – where we will discuss understandings and developments in the field of psychology.
In today’s episode, Chris and Abbie are discussing why change can feel so lonely? They will talk about what triggers growth in people, the amount a person can actually change and how loneliness plays a role in this growth. [June 2, 2025]
00:00 - Intro
00:47 - Dr. Abbie Maroño Intro
01:06 - Intro Links
- Social-Engineer.com - http://www.social-engineer.com/
- Managed Voice Phishing - https://www.social-engineer.com/services/vishing-service/
- Managed Email Phishing - https://www.social-engineer.com/services/se-phishing-service/
- Adversarial Simulations - https://www.social-engineer.com/services/social-engineering-penetration-test/
- Social-Engineer channel on SLACK - https://social-engineering-hq.slack.com/ssb
- CLUTCH - http://www.pro-rock.com/
- innocentlivesfoundation.org - http://www.innocentlivesfoundation.org/
02:23 - Dr. Abbie Announcement
03:30 - The Topic of the Day: The Lonely Chapter
04:38 - Triggering Change
06:00 - People Don't Change?
11:30 - All Change Isn't Growth
13:15 - Why Growth Can Be Lonely
15:56 - What About Love?
17:16 - New You, Who Dis?
21:19 - Feelings Can REALLY Hurt!
22:15 - Choosing Who You Are
24:36 - Syncing Up
27:43 - A Constant Evolution
30:17 - Search For Meaning
32:31 - Making Connections
33:12 - Wrap Up
33:56 - Next Month: Love At First Sight
34:42 - Outro
- www.social-engineer.com
- www.innocentlivesfoundation.org
Find us online:
- LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/dr-abbie-maroño-phd
- Instagram: @DoctorAbbieofficial
- LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/christopherhadnagy
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