I'm Feeling This Way and I Would Like to Find a Solution to This Problem

When you are able to validate your partner and help them feel really understood and cared for by you, they will tell you how they're feeling because they trust you. When that is invalidated or dismissed or, you know, rejected or reacted to with hostility or contempt, it is a betrayal of trust. The trust has been broken to the point that people do not feel safe enough to share how they are really feeling with each other. And when there is validation happening on both sides, it isn't just you saying, I have a problem and we need to fix it because I'm not okay right now.