Most men don't feel great about the sex, like making their wife unha potentially to do this. A lot of them had been sexless for ten years before finally trying to find a sex worker. Most guys i talked to, i got the impression that they had made at least some effort. There are some people who are just temperamentally amd much more suited to non conventional sexual lives. Yes, monogamy has its downsides too. That everything, everything in the hollantire world has trade offsri tats,. Like a fundamentally conservative insight an i think there's no such thing as 'the perfect marriage'