To be rejected by the group would probably result in death, rightmon was life threating. This is why we have to be so persistent and creative in finding ways to convince people that this group is accepting you. Endless creativity and endless persistence with that message. And all human beings are that same way. I mean, one of my favourite stories of the power of this is something around, i think it's called the spaghetti challenge. The contest is who can build the tallest tower with 20 pieces of raw spaghetti, a yard of scotch tape and then one standard marsh mellow? And the only rules, a marshmellow has to be on the top. But kindergarteners don't