You've Got to Take Away Her Manipulative Power

Your first task when you're engaging with a wicked person is to take away their manipulative power. How? By naming what's happening in the present moment, the conversation you're having right now. And then here's the critical line for you to say to your mother, ma'am, are you interested in hearing about the hurt in my heart right now? This question disrupts the status quo. It takes the spotlight off the past and shines it on the present interaction,. What's the goal? To expose mam's wickedness so she feels some shame, and then to invite her to repentance - inviting her to become more beautiful, more glorious, more who she truly is inside.