As a poly person, it's been a struggle to seriously date people. I always was trying to be upfront and very transparent and get that alignment. There comes a point where you're just like, okay, this is not healthy. Like there's one person I was in a relationship with that was fairly serious. And we had to go out of town, at least like an hour or two away for us to even be like close in public. It was so weird. Now it's like, I just wouldn't do any of that shit.
Mitchell Hartwell, known professionally as Erik Everhard, is a Canadian pornographic actor and director known for gonzo pornography films.
Since 1995, he's performed in over 2,400 films, been featured in GQ and Playboy, and has won 15 AVN awards and over 50 other adult film industry awards.
Recently, he's turned author, speaker, and men's coach, holding a masters level NLP certification. After working with over 5000 women and seeing the common threads between them, he's begun helping entrepreneurs & executives learn how to master the bedroom like they dominate the boardroom.
Some of the topics we dive into are:
00:00:00 – Introduction
00:02:18 – From Porn to Men's Coaching
00:05:53 – Neuro-Linguistic Programming
00:08:37 – Ayahuasca, Psilocybin, LSD, and DMT
00:20:00 – The Benefits of Psilocybin in Improving Relationships
00:23:27 – The Impact of Toxic People & Relationships
00:35:03 – The Porn Industry in the early 2000s
00:36:18 – Erik's Journey into Porn
00:40:39 – The Dangers of Viagra
00:42:17 – The Perception of Male Porn Stars
00:50:38 – The Negative and Positive Impacts of Porn
00:53:55 – The Different Flavors of Polyamory
01:00:17 – Tinder and Sexual Exploration in America
01:02:00 – Asexuality and the Desire for Intimacy
01:04:50 – The Pros and Cons of Monogamy vs. Polyamory
01:09:48 – Scarcity Mindset in Relationships
01:13:04 – The Mental Game of Entrepreneurship
01:19:47 – Letting Go and Overcoming Anxiety
01:21:34 – Filming a Public Sex Scene in Budapest.
01:29:04 – The Perks of Being a Porn Star
01:37:50 – The Most Difficult Sex Scene He Filmed
01:39:34 – Extreme Fetishes and Sadomasochism in Porn
01:45:58 – Sexual Exploration in Relationships
01:50:23 – Mental Illness in the Porn Industry
01:59:42 – Monogamy in the Porn Industry
02:03:11 – Dating While Being a Porn Star
02:06:00 – America's Cognitive Dissonance with Porn
02:08:00 – The Negative Effects of Porn on Society
02:12:00 – Only Fans
02:17:50 – NFTs and the Dangers of Relying on Platforms Like OnlyFans
02:28:30 – The Future of the Porn Industry
02:38:47 – The Impact of a Bad First Sexual Experience
02:40:34 – The Importance of Communication in Sexual Relationships
02:42:00 – Life and Purpose
02:45:22 – Overcoming Sexual Performance Anxiety
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