You're the Best. You've Been Waiting for Me.

As a result, when the a child who ences splitting grows up, they fall into rather extreme, polarizing behaviors. When they meet someone new, they very quickly idolize. They'll make impulsive commitments because they're only seeing the person thrugh is fill or of entirely good and so on. But then just as hastily, the moment after they have an invitation turned down, or they're not invited to a social gathering, ora plan has to be cancelled, that they will flip their entire conception of this new person. It's an attempt to a expunge, or or dispel, all of the pain full feelings of rejection, abandonment, abuse they received in childhood.