How Did You Blow Up Your Marriage?

"I don't know hat to say hat. I feel like we're separate here," says a man who almost blew up his marriage. "My identity was being the smart guy in the room, not being the most safe or loving or gentle person the room", he adds. He blames himself for what's wrong with his wife because she doesn't want to listen to him talk about how terrible church is and have an actual laugh once in awhile.