Do You Want to Be With This Person or Not?

This question is from dekista, who asks, a dear hank john, in need of some dubious advice. I'm a 21 year old woman in college, attractov the male type, but it seems that nothing, that's your first b? Why do take this seemingly easy way out when it seems like it's just better for everyone to tell the person you're not interested? We're adults, for goodness sake. Oh, i can't even give an encouraging answer to this question because inside i'm just cringingt all my memories of dating. When you do know if you're going to spend the rest of your lives together, the whole process is uncomfort ye.