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40 Love and War: Attachment and Intimate Relationships

The Place We Find Ourselves

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The Civil Wars

As a child, I learned that verbal barrages could get my blood pumping and make me feel alive in a desert of emotional needs. When Michael is hunkered behind his wall, I feel an insatiable desire for connection. Rousing an argument actually soothes my system. At an unconscious level, we select a spouse as an attempt to resolve the pain of our childhood.

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