I Don't Like Eating Weight, but I Treat Fat People Differently

There is an expectation that fat people owe everyone else an explanation for why we are the size that we are. For thin folks, when they're asked for an explanation of their body, it's always, what's your secret? How did you do? I have definitely had multiple friendships in my life where I realize part way through that I am actually a project to the person that I'm talking to. People will try and slyly sneak in things like, do you ever think about going to the gym? They are viewing me as like a fixer upper. Like I'm a house they can flip. Who they fundamentally see as kind of wretched. Do you know what I mean? Right