The men who are trying to shut it out of their minds typically it doesn't work right and you know what happens 10 12 days later they're leaving because the money is stupid. that they go I just don't think about my son yeah but women tend to be more like it's my son's birthday today and thinking about my son today. It's the most gender norm of show I've ever seen in my life right and it's showing the different methods of survival that we that we do here.