"I made my journey difficult because without even realizing it, I expected my journey to be difficult," she says. "From the outside looking in, it looked like everyone else was winning with ease." Those who are winning are no different from you and should focus on what they want instead of trying to make other people's lives happy for their own sake. 'Don't keep saying you want something, but then when it's time to go after it, you've got excuse, after excuse,' he adds.