You Can't Go. You Can Want It to Shift

Shana James: I wish guys would get this message more because we really have this whole, like, fear of the friend zone thing. If you actually want to be friends with her and you interact with her because you want to spend time with her or not because you have an agenda, it's possible that might shift. But the paradox is you can't go. You can't want it to shift and be like, angling towards it. So if you're just rushing and trying to get me somewhere else, then I don't have a sense of that this is actually going to be enjoyable or interesting or.