Is It Impossible to Be Good to Yourself or to Your Partner?

i think it's incredibly important to do the internal work and ask yourself why and where these things are coming from. It may be because your ex partner did a huge boundary violation, and that therefore it became a bound like they did something kind of unforgivable. Maybe you don't want to be in a relationship with someone who hides your existence from other people. That's why it feels like a value to you to be able to eventually meet in person your metamore or your partner's partner. A boundary would be something that's not like, ok, you cross this boundary of mine. Let's talk about it and maybe re evaluate, and i'll change my boundary. Your boundary