Embracing Authentic Communication and Connection

in this episode, I speak from the heart on my own struggles with finding and accepting my voice. I discuss the dual need to both be visible/seen and invisible/hidden. I am following the echo and calling of Audre Lorde's essay "On the transformation of silence into language and action" in which she asks, "what are the words you do not yet have? what do you need to say?". I weave in some of the voices that appeared in my consciousness as I speak these words, in recognition of our collective and shared consciousness. If you are struggling to use your voice in any way - in your private relationships or on your public profile - this episode is for you.

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Key quote from me: Paint the world with your consciousness!

Time stamps:

• (00:00): Welcome back! On struggling to share my voice
• (04:42): Audre Lorde essay “On the transformation of silence into language and action” 
• (05:31): Matching our inner and outer world Ft. Sahara Rose Highest Self Podcast
• (07:47): The condition of truth is that it allow suffering to speak — Dr. Cornel West 
• (09:38): Ubuntu Ft. Mungi Ngomane 
• (11:30): Reading from my journal on finding/accepting my voice 
• (17:53): Gabor Mate on authenticity vs. attachment 
• (24:36): We are world-builders 
• (26:00): My experiences with self-repression
• (29:00): What would you tell your daughter to do? 
• (34:30): Speak from the body - Gloria Anzaldúa
• (38:48): The suffering and alchemy of artists
• (49:00): The ripple effects of using our voice 
• (50:00): Your words matter 
• (52:30): Words between friends build worlds 
• (55:25): What do YOU need to say?

Sources and clips included:

Selected Works of Audre Lorde, edited by Roxane Gay

On the transformation of silence into language and action by Audre Lorde

Highest self podcast Episode 482: How to Open Up Your Throat Chakra + Speak with Soul with Sahara Rose on Spotify and YouTube

Everyday Ubuntu: Living better the African Way by Mungi Ngomane

Why Do We Disconnect From Our True Selves | Dr. Gabor Mate by Way of Thinking

What is meant by "Authenticity"?: Gabor Mate by Science and Nonduality (SAND)

Freedom is a Constant Struggle by Angela Davis

Cornel West quote: "You must let suffering speak, if you want to hear the truth."

Learn more about Gloria E. Anzaldúa