Why Safety Is Needed for Sexual Desire

EPISODE SUMMARY

Dolly Josette is a somatic sexologist and intimacy coach known as "The Pleasure Muse" who helps people reconnect with their bodies to unlock deeper pleasure. In this episode, Dolly returns to the show to explore why so many of us feel disconnected from our own sensations, where trauma actually lives in the body, and how a few minutes of daily practice can transform your relationship with pleasure. She and Dr. Emily get into embodiment work, why your genitals might be holding onto more than you realize, and what it really means to stop abandoning yourself for others.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• What somatic sexology actually is and how it differs from talk therapy

• Why your body stores emotions and trauma in your fascia and genitals

• The simple exercise that can help you release blocks you didn't know you had

• Why you can't figure out what you want sexually until your body feels safe

• How to do a "vulva hug" and why your genitals might be craving your attention

• The real reason pleasure fades after the honeymoon phase

• Why embodiment isn't another thing on your to-do list — it's how you live

• How long it actually takes to build an embodiment practice that sticks

• The one song a day practice that can pull you back into your body

• What your body is trying to tell you when you feel frozen or shut down

• How to access your partner's prostate for maximum pleasure

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Timestamps:

0:00 - Introduction

2:12 - What is Somatic Sexology and Body Work?

5:02 - Why You Can't Feel Pleasure Until Your Body Feels Safe

9:03 - How Trauma Gets Stored in Your Genitals

14:54 - The Power of Slowing Down During Intimate Touch

20:51 - Hungry Hungry Vagina: HRT and Hormonal Changes

27:02 - Finding Your Pleasure Spot at the Vaginal Entrance

29:36 - How to Stimulate the Prostate for Maximum Pleasure

36:40 - Why You Need More Non-Sexual Touch in Your Life

41:03 - Your Body is Craving Your Attention