In 19 70, he asked at least two other women to marry him. Eventually she writes him a letter basically saying, don't care that you don't want to marry me. So their relationship goes on for the next 14 years. He takes it as an invitation to just act like he's single. They see each other on week s, and during the week days he's dating other people. It sounds like, by all accounts, he is a dick in the books that you read. Was there anything reconciling? She seems to kind of be fascinated by him and admiring of him.