The Right Ofao Way of Marriage

i've learned that you can't change people, but you can always change how you react to them. And then they will change. That is away way of looking at the right ofao way of marriage. With the western mind, it's kill it. Hit her with the hammer, right? It over the head. Where is the chinese way? Chinese medicine? Let's support the system. Let's make the entire organism healthier and then it will just balance itself out. We don't have to try to kill this and kill that. E right.