You Use Me, When in Actually They're Using You?

My husband said he joined your group because he feels like we are roommates. He doesn't want to put any work into having an actual relationship. We aren't partners, but that's all by his choice. And when i mention divorce, he says, i'm just using him. When wouldn't that be the other way around? It sounds like your am pointing to a meaning twist that happens in the marriage. The spouse is professing to be a victim of something from you, when in fact they're using you.