Do You Have a 15 Year Old?

You're doing exactly the thing that you should do. Your 15 year old has had many years now where he's grown up in that kind of dysfunctional environment. He's old enough to hear the truth of your life, at least a lot of it. It's important for you to be as honest as you can without being explicit that they understand this is a decision you're making in part because you and your husband are imperfect people. I think kids oftentimes and it's a natural impulse. They say, oh, well, all this discord must be my fault.