How Much Intimacy Can the Marriage Handle?

I think the question is how much intimacy can the marriage handle? Now if you're trying to say I'm disappointed or frustrated in order to get Sarah into the shape that you wanted to be in, you should not talk. If you are talking honestly to a partner that you dare to disappoint and be disappointed by, well, then it's good information for the marriage. It gets you a chance to look at, am I being fair or not? Because let's go to you for a minute. Why do you think you're hiding who you are there? My view of it is that I, to a fault, defer to her needs, wants, wishes. Keep her happy to keep her