Anger and Reactivity in Relationships

There's a kind of limbic spiraling right now of anger and reactivity. And on a personal level, i don't know anyone that hasn't struggled with anger. I mean, if somebody criticizes you, er breaks e promise in some way, or talks about you behind your back,. What happens? Do we instantly lock into blame and effensiveness and aggression? Some of us act out and then regret it. Some of us apologize. Onea writer says, reda rudner says, my grandmother's a very tough woman. She buried three husbands, two of them were just napping so she didn't have regrets and apologize.